Why Can’t I Find Love? Frustrated Single Woman’s Emotional Rant Goes Viral
Every single person has heard it before: learn to love yourself, then you’ll find your soul mate. It’s the age-old advice that implies if you work hard, become successful, go to the gym, and protect your mental health, you’ll stumble upon that relationship you so desperately want. But here’s the thing – it’s not as easy as it sounds.
In fact, about 91% of single men and 94% of single women feel like dating and finding their person is near impossible. And one woman, Ryan Spencer, took to TikTok to express her frustration in a brilliantly unfiltered rant that has now gone viral with nearly 600,000 views.
In the emotional clip, Ryan sat crying in her car, questioning when it was going to be ‘her turn’ to find a partner. “Quick question. Are you f**king kidding me? Like I am so sick and tired of just everything, right now,” she says, clearly exasperated.
Ryan explains that she just wants love in her life ‘so badly’ and that she’s ‘over’ not having it, especially because she’s done so much work on herself. “I have built a beautiful life for myself. I’m happy with my life where I’m at, my job, I’m successful, I’m independent, I’m healthier than I’ve ever been,” she continues. “I take such good care of myself – truly the only thing I’m missing in my life is someone to enjoy it with. I’m so sick of waiting… What more do I have to do to fix myself before I’m just allowed to be happy? Before I’m allowed to meet this soul mate person that God supposedly has for me? I feel like I’m being punished for something I didn’t do.”
Ryan’s emotional rant struck a chord with many, as her TikTok comments were flooded with people who felt exactly the same way. It seems that the advice of “it will happen when you least expect it” or “find what makes you happy” just isn’t cutting it anymore. People are tired of being told to focus on themselves and would rather have someone to share their life with.
So, why is it so difficult to find love? Why do so many fabulous singletons, who have ‘done the work’, struggle to find ‘The One’? These questions remain unanswered, leaving many feeling frustrated and wondering if they’ll ever find the love they desire.
RYAN TIRED OF WAITING FOR LOVE, WANTS HER TURN TO FIND A PARTNER
In a recent TikTok video, Ryan expressed her frustration with waiting for the love of her life and shared her desire to find a partner. Other TikTokers, including Chanté Joseph, also weighed in on Ryan’s video, highlighting the societal pressure on single individuals.
PSYCHOLOGIST REASSURES: ‘YOU’RE DOING JUST FINE’
Psychologist Emma Kenny acknowledges that feeling defeated in this situation is normal. She empathizes with those who are actively working on themselves, hitting the gym, pursuing their passions, and practicing self-care, yet still find themselves single. Emma emphasizes the importance of not letting this frustration overshadow the other positive aspects of life. She advises focusing on balance and contentment within oneself, rather than waiting for a relationship as a reward.
LUCK PLAYS A ROLE, NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IDEAL
Emma further dismisses the notion that personal efforts alone guarantee finding a partner, stating that luck also plays a significant role. She even goes as far as saying that some of the people she knows in relationships are not the best individuals.
THE TAKEAWAY: YOU ARE ENOUGH, DESPITE FEELING DEFEATED
While the situation may seem discouraging, it is important to remember that you are enough. Feeling defeated is a natural response, but it doesn’t define your worth.
